Women have decided that they are now going to take control!! They are not just going to let men keep playing them. No more playing with their hearts, feeling, and bodies leaving them busted and disgusted. From now on it’s going to be her choice and he can either LOVE IT or LEAVE IT!! The irony is it has always been their choice, but apparently they didn’t know it. Since the beginning of time men have been doing not what they wanted, but what women let them. One the woman sets the tone the man knows he has 2 choices: 1.He can give the woman what she wants (RESPECT, LOVE, COMMITMENT, RESPONSIBILITY…etc) or 2. He can move on to the woman who asks for nothing and end up with nothing. This is the point where you separate the MEN from the boys.
If he is lying, cheating, abusive, or a deadbeat and you accept him that is your choice. If when you saw this in him and you shut him down, cut him off, and let it be known that if he wasn’t on your level you ain’t coming down to his; the only choice he would have is step up or step on!! Many women would say he wasn’t like that in the beginning, “he didn’t change until after the SEX!” Now the sex comes into play, LOVE gets confused with lust and now you can’t leave him. Again you should know this is a choice. Then one day you finally get fed up and decide to leave you walk away mad with him, love and emotions. He did it to you, and it wouldn’t have happened if your feelings didn’t get involved, and you didn’t love him. It had nothing to do with the fact that you made a choice to open your legs, heart, and homes to a stranger. You gave him your all and asked for nothing and felt played when you got nothing. AGAIN this was your choice!!!! But now you’re taking control, from now on no man will get your heart. You made a decision, sex is just going to be sex, or you just won’t let any man in. Either way now you’re in control! Or are you??? Your every reaction now is based on hurt or revenge, none of which will affect the person who hurt you. If you really want control take it from day one! Start by loving yourself, and don’t accept anyone who can’t. Set a bar and don’t lower it, but force them to elevate to it. Remember you’re in CONTROL take it, and never let it go!!
Bravo!! Well written article!! Its really that easy!! Know your worth and never settle!