“If your happiness is based on happenings, it only takes one thing to happen for you not to be happy!” – Robert Nolden, Relationship Expert
It doesn’t take much to figure out that we’re living in a day and age where it doesn’t take much for relationships to shatter and fall apart.
Men complain about problems with women – women complain that they are treated less than desirably by men. Many from each side complain they are victimized and abused – cheated on and belittled. One of the main problems it seems we face, is the lack of ability to walk away from those bad situations.
Enter Robert Nolden, a New Orleans area native who seems to have all the answers. Nolden seems to have all the answers, or at the very least, a sobering word to shake us back to reality. He doesn’t coddle those who run to him advice – in fact, he gives some very cut and dried advice. He gives it to us straight, from a man’s point of view and perhaps that is what sets him apart from the crowd.
Never harsh, always on time and relentless in handing out intelligent advice, Nolden is poised to become the next young guru people turn to for a word or two on how to hold it together – or maybe even whether they should waste their time holding it together.
We had a chance to catch up with Nolden and he dropped some knowledge on us, as we knew he would. Here’s what he had to say:
THE HEAT MAGAZINE: Tell our readers about yourself.
ROBERT NOLDEN: I’m an author, speaker, and relationship advisor. I basically tell women what many men are afraid for them to know. For most of my life, I’ve been around men who were pimps, players, and man whores. It’s crazy because I remember my Grandmother telling one of my aunts about my uncle – “It ain’t on them. It’s in them. They can’t wash it off.” But after seeing the effects of it in my own home, I said I would be different, so this is how I’ve chosen to be. I started talking to women about relationships and an old man was listening. He told me I had something, so I been doing this ever since. It started with the “From His Perspective” group on Facebook and has spiraled since. I’ve turned into something like a black Dr. Phil or a Hitch for females, and I’m loving it!!!
THE HEAT MAGAZINE: You are obviously very insightful – tell us what you think the main problems are in relationships today.
ROBERT NOLDEN: I think the main problem in relationships is everyone is dealing with so much hurt, and hurt people hurt people. Everyone is spending so much time trying not to get hurt that they aren’t thinking about who they hurt.
THE HEAT MAGAZINE: What is your advice to someone stuck in a bad relationship, when they obviously have realized it?
ROBERT NOLDEN: If you’re stuck in a bad relationship, GET OUT. The only thing that has you stuck is you. You have to first love yourself, then don’t accept anyone who can’t love you as much as you love you!!! I know it sounds crazy, but if they can’t love you like you love you, why do you need them? People find all kind of reasons to stay together, but the truth is you really can do bad by yourself and a bad relationship is basically being by yourself anyway. Just make sure you’re RIGHT when you’re pointing the finger at them talking about how wrong they are!!
THE HEAT MAGAZINE: What do you have to say to females who continue to put themselves in less than positive situations?
ROBERT NOLDEN: I really believe where you are is where you want to be! I really can’t say anything to that female until they realize they are in that situation. But the first thing is pray and take time to yourself and figure out how you got there. Then, try to figure out how not to get there again. Until you find these two things out, you’ll only repeat the cycle. Next, never lower your standards – make them raise theirs, and if they can’t, keep moving until you find someone who reaches your level. Know your worth and don’t accept anything less!!!
THE HEAT MAGAZINE: Where will we see you in the next several years? What’s next for you?
ROBERT NOLDEN: In the next few years, I plan to release a book entitled, “The Business of Love”. Also, I’ll be speaking at women’s empowerment conferences, trying to get more women to recognize their worth. I will continue to add to the website www.fromhisperspective.com, and expand my practice. Last thing I can add is, I hear a lot of women trying to make men the reason they are in the situation they are in, but it’s time to stop being the victim. Remember no one can do you anything you don’t let them. If you know you’re a woman, look for and only accept a man. Remember, little boys play games and men don’t have time for games.
EDITOR’S NOTE: Check out the “From His Perspective” Facebook group – it’s one of Robert Nolden’s venues to dispense his fresh, and real advice: https://www.facebook.com/groups/218157258216772/.
